Sometimes we buy into lies about forgiveness. Have you heard any of these?
1. Forgiving someone means you are condoning the wrong done to me.
2. If I forgive someone doesn’t that mean I’m giving them permission to hurt me again?
3. I don’t need to go through this forgiveness thing. Time will heal my wounds.
4. If I forgive them, don’t I have to go to them and tell them that I have forgiven them? (Sometimes yes, but sometimes it may not be the best thing to do.)